Thursday, September 23, 2010

The Journey To Self Discovery



A man never discloses his own character so clearly as when he describes another's. Writing one’s own memoir or biography would not seem to be a conventional thing to do for a trained in-house lawyer, especially being only at the age of 27.

This may sound silly, but since the age of 19, I have seen and envisioned myself in a corporate suit hurrying off to work- carrying a briefcase and walking towards KLCC. I wanted to become someone important, someone who possesses great intellect not to mention a great communicator with impeccable linguistic skills. It might sound shallow, but I was young and naïve then, and the image did actually work in helping me manage the stresses of law school, nine months of chambering (in a middle sized law firm) and two years working in Telekom Malaysia as a Corporate Counsel. Indeed, being the eldest and the long history of lawyers in the family did help me realise my calling. I knew that reading law would become part of my journey in achieving the vision I had in mind.

After about 4 and a half years in the profession, although some considers age and experience to be the ultimate factors of growth, learning by observing the success and mistakes of my own and of others were also to me, considered key in the journey to self discovery.

Naturally for any young motivated executive starting a career in the oil and gas industry, each and every opportunity given was treated as a challenge, an adventure. And I was not excluded from feeling the same way.

It all started two years ago when I was first introduced to all staff including all General Managers of Legal Services Unit (LSU) of the 69th floor. Welcoming faces, friendly gestures and confident handshakes greeted me hello. I felt so much positive energy and conversation was effortless. An unforgettable encounter stunned me when I introduced myself to one of the GMs (perhaps it was due to bad timing at that time). But the bitter-painful experience taught me the valuable lesson of the need to be strong willed, determined, regardless of what a person may perceive at first glance. It was important to prove my worth; and serving PETRONAS Dagangan Berhad (PDB) was to me, an excellent opportunity to do the same.

I was assigned to handle Contracts and Procurement matters in my first six months of working in PDB. It was an eye opener on how close and exposed the lawyers were to the clients in PDB, as compared to how it was in the old company I was from. I observed that most lawyers back in the old company were secluded in their own floors, kept away from the world, constantly preparing documents and were called and consulted only when required, usually when contracts are needed to be finalised, or when issues have escalated beyond repair. Perhaps, it was the young executives who were hardly put in the limelight as they lack the support and opportunity to handle high profile matters. Hence, the exposure to young lawyers was lacking and opportunity was scarce. It was in fact PETRONAS’ comprehensive learning and human capital development programme which was the main reason for me in opting to apply in joining PETRONAS.

My service in PDB as a legal officer taught me the invaluable experience of being constantly on my toes, being relentlessly ready for “battle” at any time due the nature of the company’s business and its risk of exposure. Managing expectations of clients and the boss was also considered as a challenge for me. Over the span of my first year, responsibilities increased, my portfolio widened and I felt more and more acquainted with the business and its lingo and what was expected from me in carrying out my tasks.

I am thankful that my direct superior has entrusted me to handle numerous key assignments which I never would have the opportunity of handling. I was assigned to deliver findings of key due diligence within a ridiculously short span of time (which I ended up being so thankful for as I had learned a lot on land issues in Sarawak), the preparation of Annual Reports, organising the company’s Annual General Meeting, handling massive company secretarial and corporate matters, industrial relations, attended negotiations with multinational companies including numerous document preparations (from simple, to high level complex transactions and arrangements).

Becoming an in house counsel of PDB had also taught me that lawyers should be business enablers, commercial savvy and that clients no matter of what rank (GMs and MD/CEOs included), considers your advice as the best as what is needed in protecting the interest of the Company. Knowledge of the business is indeed important in ensuring that every strategy, approach and decision is made in line with the direction where the company is heading.

From the first day of me joining the company, I knew, and constantly reminded myself that each calculative move, each step is known to be observed, monitored and evaluated. The passion for the law and burning desire to serve the company and ultimately the nation had taken me beyond what I imagined was possible.

Being an in house counsel of a public listed company of PETRONAS without a doubt was harder than I thought. But without any regrets, I was exposed to so much, in so little time. It was (and still is) an extraordinary experience being part of an excellent team of lawyers.

Compared to what I was 10 years ago, the awkward and shy teenager would not have thought that she was capable of negotiating terms of contracts against giant companies or international entities including lawyers with vast experiences way ahead of her years.

Hence, nobody should be allowed to feel small, incapable, inadequate or simply not good enough. I believe in the continuous learning in enfolding one’s true potential and in overcoming any fear. Each and every person deserves the opportunity to learn, and with that, mistakes would be inevitable. It is therefore important that this be embraced, and not be penalised, stigmatised and judged instead.

Growing with the company and to aspire become the crem de la crem is definitely my ultimate goal and aspiration. For that reason, it must be realised that each plays their role in contributing, no matter how small it may seem in one’s perspective from the high up.

Friday, July 9, 2010

A Picture's Worth

Recent trends have shown the significant inclination of modern couples to have their pre-wedding pictures taken. Some argued, what would be the point of having them? There is no denying that a pre-wed picture would lack the intimacy, hence the non- variety of poses.

Pre-wedding pictures to me are important to mark the couple's moments of love, to capture the happiness and anticipation before the real day comes. Mr fiance dearest has yet to agree for us to have pre wedding pics (yes, dear, i know you think it'll be a waste) but just hear me out.

Don't deny that these are some fantastic shots :P

Twilight Inspired




Fairytale Inspired



Vintage Inspired

Monday, July 5, 2010

Truth and Tears

People can definitely surprise you. Those you have known most of your lives, may not be as what they claimed. Lies, secrets and skeletons in the closet? Take my advice and be prepared to face some cold, hard truth.

a) Older men who cheat on their wives with younger women disgusts me.

b) I do not mix well with people with obsessive compulsive behaviour.

c) Taking credit of the effort of another, and later not acknowleding them is a sin. Blaming another person for a fault which is yours, is worse.

Me a whiner? It got me to think. Is it all that bad? Am I the one attracting these negative elements in my life? Should I be happy, accepting all that has been thrown at me? Should I be thankful that, at least, I'm well, alive and breathing, at least with a job, a place to stay and having a shoulder to cry on?

I am trying very hard to change (a) (b) and (c) to positive thoughts. There must at least be some silver linings to be found.

Wednesday, June 23, 2010

Cries of a Bridezilla Gone Beserk

You’d know that you are no longer that composed, sweet and blushing bride-to be:

1.When Martha Stewart, your packed lunch and your cubicle became your loyal companion at 1 in the afternoon.

2.When crossing off guest names from your list is a daily immature activity if people somehow find ways to piss you off.

3.When you feel like screaming at the top of your lungs when your presentation on wedding theme, choice of colours and concept are being vetoed by family members.

4.When eating is no longer a necessity, just to fit yourself into that wedding dress.

5.When the thing that keeps you sane at work (besides salary and bonus) is the thought of getting wedding gifts and hantaran.

6.When ice cream, chocolate and yummy treats had lost that irresistible appeal.

7.When crashing weddings (of friends and strangers) becomes a weekly event.

8.When you have recurring nightmares of people laughing and pointing at your excess lemak and how weird you look as you are walking down that aisle.

9. When door gifts, flowers and catering win over the need for new handbags and shoes.

10.When your bonus looks tiny in comparison to the budgeted costs of having the wedding of your dreams.


*Deep breath*~
As I am writing this, I realized how silly little things and tiny details about the wedding could easily freak me out, considering how little time I have left to prepare. I hope the symptoms I’m suffering isn’t all that rare!

After careful thought, I’d have to say that having THE perfect wedding does not entirely define you & your partner nor your marriage. What matters is being there together with the people you care to celebrate your special day. A wise friend told me, embrace the challenge, spend in moderation & have loads of fun planning!

Monday, June 14, 2010

Taking the Plunge in Colour Style

After months of blank incomprehensible stares whenever asked about my wedding theme and colour, I have finally decided to stick to a combination I love most.

Colours are important in potraying one's style and identity. So I'm planning to take this seriously, regardless of what people may say. Night or daytime, traditional or modern, the event should be able to portray the joys of the eventful day (in this case, it should be 3 days!) , without being wasteful.

One of trickiest things to do is to covince the rest of the family on the theme and concept. Since pink was optioned out, here's what I have in mind:


For Aqad (Adrin's Residence):
Silver, Light Green, White



For My Reception (Klana Resort):
Yellow, Green, White


For Mr Fiance's Reception (Tabung Haji, Ampang):
Pink, Fuschia, Light Green, Yellow


Thank goodness all of my wedding dresses are white. Matching them shouldnt be that much of a problem. Now, on to the shoes and bouquet!

:D

Sunday, June 6, 2010

Lucky

Let's face it. Nothing comes easy in life. Indeed, it is the painstaking efforts, the sacrifices, the blood, sweat and tears shed which allowed one to truly appreciate his/her own success.

But how do you explain those people who were just born lucky, talented, rich and famous without a worry in the world? (or so it seemed?) What about people who are just plain geniuses and so intelligent that they need not work half as hard, compared to others who simply had no choice but to put in the extra hours? What is it also about the mambo jambos going around about “visualising” and “believing” in your dreams and that eventually those would come “rolling” to you and the universe would somehow work its way to help you achieve what you want?

I have always believed that those are partly true. By believing in your heart that you are capable and worthy of something, eventually your actions would reflect your goals and whatever you do would be in pursuit of them, be it a new a car, a job promotion, having a loving, happy family, losing weight, a new house or even that outrageously expensive handbag you’ve had your eyes on. There is no such thing as sitting around, waiting for it to come true. It takes work, determination and one’s willingness to endure possible disappointments- sometimes, success may not make its first visit. I’ve discovered that one can have it all, sooner or later. It may not be as perfectly as pictured, but it can be nearly as wonderful.

You are in fact what you believe you are. And "Luck" might not be it at all.

Friday, June 4, 2010

About to be Charmed


Were you ever in a situation where no else existed, nothing else mattered and all you want to do is spend your very existence with a special someone? First thing that came to mind, is a vacation getaway (with just me and Mr Fiance) exploring the beach, swimming, snorkeling, feeding each other mangos and drinking coconut. Guess what? That’ll be a reality in a mere 5 months!

After working our a**es off for the past 4 years, it has been a while since I had a great relaxing vacation! I’m so looking forward to it!

All thanks to Mr Fiance and his genius idea, we won the Honeymoon package @ Midvalley Wedding Fair. Kamandalu Resort is about to become our Honeymoon destination! It’s one of those things I look forward to (besides the wedding, of course) which keeps me going and alive at work!
*jumping up and down* I’m so psyched!!

Tuesday, April 13, 2010

Material Girl, Material World

Some say that a dream wedding would probably eat up most of your savings. Weddings are even considered to be a multi million ringgit industry in Malaysia (yea, i actually looked that up). Since mr fiance dearest and I had came up with the so-called wedding budget about a month ago, I couldnt help but wonder, would spending most (if not all) of my money be worth it? People who know me well would realise that despite my small pay I do have an unhealthy splurging appetite on branded goods (walaupun tak mampu!)


(yea this pic is rather tiny)

I, for one had my eyes set on my dream dais by dicky d fabulous, and let me tell you, his price range is 'fabulous' indeed. A basic pelamin in a ballroom is a mind staggering RM 10k, not including aisle deco or even the arch! *chokes*

So what now? Logic would dictate that one (with mediocre pay and insufficient savings) should opt for a close duplicate. Aaah, but the trick is finding a wedding decorator who is willing to do so for half the price ;) So I'm currently scouting for one fast and currently having a few options in mind.

And yes, a colleague had even suggested that I take a peek at the oh-so famous lynda rahim butik in ampang. Rental of a wedding dress + groom's suit alone costs RM4k. Unfortunately,I had already fell in love with lynda rahim's fantastic lace beaded dress with flowing veil and train (yes, it was also featured in a magazine)

Perhaps it isn't such a great idea to waltz around famous couture designer boutiques anymore and stop pretending that I could actually afford those :(




Heck, call me shallow all you want. At least cheap ordinary stuff sometimes do look pretty pricey under dim lightings, right? *Sighs*

Monday, April 12, 2010

The Day I Got Engaged



It's official! Yes, people, I am now engaged to mr fiance m adli m hassan ;)wink. (ALHAMDULILLAH!)It was a beautiful ceremony indeed, and I was soo lucky to have fantastic family and friends who were there to help. Love you guys (Muahss*)I even had 3 photographer frens taking pics! How great is that?

Here are some of the pics that I love. I must tell you they're my fav so far- I find these fabulously artsy!











Well I've been getting a lot of compliments about my hantaran. (I luuurve my chanel cake)and edd even did his pink hantaran himself, with the help of his mum, of course :P though the whole event was simple, it was a happy one, couldnt even stop myself from grinning till now.







With that done, I guess there's no harm to finally be on full bridezilla mode :P

Monday, February 22, 2010

Daddy's Little Girl?

I couldn't recall a time when I was younger when life wasn't revolved around fear. Dad was angry all the time, and though there were happy times at home, even at the earliest age of 5 I knew any form happiness couldn't possibly last long before his rage and temper strikes.
But my childhood wasn't all tragic, I had a roof over my head, I was well fed, and I went to school. I was not deprived of material needs, though whatever was given had to be taken care of and kept neatly. I remember it clearly when my sister and I had lost our watches at school and we were left to search for them at the primary school grounds till dusk.
Adoloscence wasn't easy for us either. Raging rebelious hormones had kept me motivated to leave home,verbal abuse can only take you to a certain tolerance level. Any child in the right mind wouldn't want to be called unimaginable, unspeakable things. But despite all that, nothing had held me back from pouring my love and admiration for him.
Now as I grow older, fear is now replaced with tiredness, dissapointments and calculated blow-ups. But in my head, I thank God, for I would not have become the person that I am now if it was not for him. I wouldnt' have done well in school , I would not have been accepted to a prestigous secondary school and graduated with a first class degree to impress him. I would not have had decent job if it was not for him, and my constant drive to become financially independant especially, to be free of him.
Recent run of events however surprised me. It was unexpected that 2 days ago, after the tiring expected drama and his typical rage attacks, with tears rolling down my cheeks I said to him, " Daddy, I only ask you to give me support, and nothing more." And he kept silent.
That day, truthfully, I couldnt have imagined that the risik had gone as smooth. Upstairs, keeping an open ear, I sobbed as I heard him say to Edd's parents who came, " I trust Adrin as so far she has made good choices in the past and she knows what she wants. All kids are unique and one of a kind, and I only have her and her sister." And then he gave his blessing.
At that moment, I realised that I am, will still be his little girl regardless.

Tuesday, February 16, 2010

Operation H : The Challenge

Operation H was put on hold yet again. (Yea, excuses, excuses). I've been blaming my gastric attacks for more than a week now and even rude comments (from ignorant good for nothing people) had not succeeded in forcing me to pull myself together back to the gym. Whatever it is, I think I may be sabotaging myself here. And I have no idea why this is happening!

After watching Julie and Julia, I realised that I need to be constantly and continuously motivated to stay on track There is no other way, except to record my daily food intakes and exercises to keep focussed.

So here's my new MO:

1. Starting a real-time online loose weight journal (food, exercises and positive thoughts)

2. Gym after work everyday- consider serious personal trainer

3. DVD workouts at home every morning before work

3. Corsett to shape it up!

4. Look into possible diet regime (I'm thinking Herbalife, but doing a little bit more research)

5. Cut down on snacks (Chocs, ice cream- it's time to get serious)

Operation H is back in business, people! Yeaha!

Monday, February 15, 2010

The "Carrie" Inspiration



And what do I love most about Sex and the City? Was it Carrie Bradshaw's bold choice in outfits, heels and accessories? I definitely have to say, it is more than that. Truthfully, I envy her spirit in being true to herself. She admits her doubts, her flaws and picks herself up after each and every breakup she had with guys who turned out to be losers.
Fun and quirky, Carrie has never failed to crack me up with her witty jokes. Apart from what her Russian used to call her (the comic), she values her friends and embraces life in the most colourful way. She took risks in love.
And that is where an idea hit me. The Carrie Inspiration!

So what the heck is it? It's basically an idea to have an ensemble or selection of satc-inspired risik, engagement and bridal wear for the upcoming big day! I have to admit, it's definitely going to be rather tricky since I wear tudung, but I'm determined to make this work!
My 2 favourite characters in the series are Charlotte and Carrie, I'm thinking ...maybe a fun, playful baju kurung modern (with class, of course!) in pink and light green for the engagement and a tasteful pink and white for the wedding.
And the hunt is ON! Wish me luck!

Friday, January 8, 2010

Just That Way



I am no composer nor am i a good writer. So writing a song and performing one wouldn't exactly represent my feelings for this certain someone that I am crazy about. *blush*

The most adorable part is that the simplest and the cutest things he does has never failed to make me love him a little more each day. Yes, he constantly amuses me by:

1. How serious he is with his work and how worried he can be about it sometimes

2. The way he sometimes laughs at his own jokes

3. How his eyes would light up each time we meet

4. How long it would take for him to decide on what drink to order but less than
half a minute in deciding to get me something nice

5. The precious way he prances around with his two left feet in our dance and
workout classes :P

6. How cute he is when he tries hard to impersonate that "badboy" look :P

7. How he tells me "I love you" and his own own way of spoiling me

8. How his jeans would tear at the most funny places

9. How extremely excited he gets when explaining on something really technical about his job, or when we would debate with me on certain topics

10. How he runs to his car to make sure that none of his "pets" are there before I get in!

Silly, silly Bubu Momo dearest, there is nothing you can do to make me change my mind on how I feel about you :P